What comes to mind when you think about a doula? If you’re like many people, you probably envision an essential oil-slinging lady in a paisley dress at a home birth. Maybe even some chanting going on. Maybe you’re thinking “hmm…that’s cool, but not me at all.” But did you know that’s just a stereotype? Doulas complement any birth team seamlessly, and definitely don’t catch babies or do voodoo.
What kind of mom can benefit from a doula? An epidural mom . A Cesarean mom. A high-risk mom. A twin mom. A home birth mom. A hospital birth mom. A breastfeeding mom. A bottle feeding mom. An attachment parenting mom. A scheduled parenting mom. A disposable diapering mom. A cloth diapering mom. A working mom. A stay at home mom. We support moms, period.
A mom who wants to feel special on her birthing day. A mom who wants to feel unconditionally supported, confident, empowered and respected. A mom who wants to feel in control of her choices – or just relax and be pampered. A mom who curls her hair and gets her toenails done when she thinks she might go into labor.
A mom who’s a little overwhelmed. You can’t wait to meet your baby, but we know you: you’re a little anxious looking forward to the whole process. You’re not sure how you will handle the pain, if you have all the information you need, or if your partner can really know just what to do and say to help you during labor.
A professional doula does not have an agenda for how they think you should give birth. She instead becomes whatever you need, whenever you need it. Birth is unpredictable and your doula is the one person whose sole job is to be dedicated to supporting the needs of you and your partner as they come up during labor. Whether it is providing physical comfort measures like massage and hip squeezes, making sure you always know what is going on and what’s normal, or letting your partner take guilt-free food and bathroom breaks, your doula is the constant rock during the whirlwind.
She’s like your BFF/wedding planner/cheerleader/favorite-relative-without-the-baggage all rolled into one.
So no, you don’t have to be a certain type of mom having a certain type of birth in order to have a doula. Are you a mom? Are you giving birth to a child? Do you want to feel totally confident, supported, and empowered during your birth? Then you are “that kind of mom” – the one who would totally love her doula.
Sara Skiles is a certified doula and the owner of Wichita Doula, an agency providing the best professional birth support, postpartum and overnight support (“night nurse”), and childbirth classes in Wichita and surrounding areas. When not working with new families, she is usually spending time with her two boys, blogging, or baking something delicious on the pretense of making a treat for the kids. Sara loves Wichita and enjoying all of the amazing people and experiences to be found there.
Mom’s need all the support they can get for the 9 months of pregnancy and after!
You’re in control! Even if that means just relaxing and getting pampered!